I know it's not for everyone. "I rarely stay in one place for too long. Sometimes I feel like I'm still running but I don't even know what from (if anything at all). Along the way, I've had the pleasure to meet the reason I love this country—our women. And for some reason, when I roll into town I feel like a soldier, and they act like they're with the USO. It's the amazing thing about life between New York and LA that I love. I traded a cubicle for a bike and a commute for a lifetime trek in which I settle down all right—with a new girl in ever town."—Hank F., from the road
You like to be on top; he's always trying to make you a bottom. You're laughing because he has no idea what he's missing. Now what?
Q: The guy I am seeing, at hotels only during the day—I think he may be married and lying to me—is a persistent top. But I'm a top, too. He's hot enough to give some training time to. How do I try to shape him into that guy who just lays back and lets a good woman take over?
A: Many couples report 'creative differences' when it comes to the position of the day. But these battles can easily be avoided. First, make it clear what you need. If you are with a man who can't deliver that—move on, as it is nearly impossible to change other people. Second, seek out the kind of partners who are on the same page as you—before you are in bed with them and realize they are domineering tops who you need to school.
Key Tip: If sex is the goal, find out what he's into before you hit the sack. If you've been intimate for awhile—work with him about what you need. But if you aren't getting what you want, seriously consider your options rather than waste your time being unsatisfied.—N.B.
