You've discovered the art of naughty lingerie. But she's not interested. Now what?
Q: The woman I am seeing thinks that my gifts of lingerie for her are really gifts for me. We've been together forever and I used to find it as hot pulling off her beat up jeans as I do slowly unfastening the expensive black guarder straps I bring home. But lately, making love to her by pulling off the sweat pants and sliding down the thong she wears has not been so hot. How do I get her to see that these gifts make our sex life so much hotter?
A: There is no question about it, the little lacy thong and g-string are as out as the lower back tattoo. And while we don't prescribe women across America slip on the full sexy pin up girl gear for work in the morning, coming home and sliding into it for your girl may be the best insurance plan you can invest in for making intimacy a hotter experience. The key is communication—and time. First, it's about her, not you. She has to get more out of your lovemaking upon taking part in your 'gifts,' and by that I mean more—as in more pleasure from the lingerie than she gets when you pull down her sweats. She has to feel the difference. Gratification must always be a two way street, and if going through the expense and trouble of lacing up does not benefit her orgasm, or her intimate pleasure, or intensify her sensually—then lingerie really is just a gift for you.
Key Tip: Make any new practice you introduce that she is hesitant about benefit her more than you.—N.B.
