You want to go down on him, but all he wants to do is pull it out of your mouth and start jackhammering you. You need something he's not willing to share. Now what?
Q: My partner's penis is, literally, perfect and I sort of can't stop thinking about it, and taking every chance to put it into my mouth to savor it. I love his pre-cum after I worship it for a bit and I ache for more. But too often he just wants to rush to the finish line and begin intercourse. How do I slow him down and get a bit more of what I want?
A: Satisfying your sexual needs is a critical part of a healthy intimate relationship. If you can't, then you should ask yourself whether you are both sexually compatible. 72% of men and women who commence extra marital affairs cite a chronic and progressive period of sexual dissatisfaction at home as a reason they begin to stray, so it is imperative that you address your desire for longer periods of oral sex with him sooner than later. First, explain what you get out of the experience. If he knows that he is pleasing you, he is more likely to go with it for longer periods. Second, work with him. One, you can find out what things orally you can do that may make the experience better for him; and two, you can compromise, and offer him more of something he wants in exchange for the things you crave.
Key Tip: Make sure you are sexually compatible now, rather than ten years down the road. Ask for what you want, and figure out a way to get it, both through soliciting feedback about how you are interacting, in this case orally, and through compromise. If in a year you are still unsatisfied, take it seriously and consider your options.—N.B.
