She is one of your closest friends, but more and more lately you want to sleep with her. Now what?
Q: My best girlfriend and I are bisexual and have been close for years. We share our boy stories and our girl stories with each other. But my problem lately is that I crave her...and want to sleep with her. Badly. I don't want to be a clichĂ© but can two women like us really just be friends?—Laura, WV. Â
A: Contrary to the notion that women are from Venus and men are from Mars, women also face this age old question. First, you many not be alone. Often in close relationships where one of you has become amorous, the other may well be feeling the same way, which is why it is critical that you to take a reprieve and not judge yourself. The key is to emancipate yourself from what can become the cause for more tension within the friendship down the road. Second, if you fear that she has no idea and the desire is not mutual, be sure to present your feelings in a way that will not be mistaken as a come-on. Kudos if after telling her you both fall into each others arms finally; but let that moment come to you if it is meant to be. In the meantime, share your feelings clearly and with maturity so that the two of you can begin moving forward, hopefully in the direction you wish for.
Key Tip: Win your freedom by being honest with yourself—and your friend.—N.B.
