Bi any other name

"It`s true - I am a bisexual. But I can`t deny that I`ve used that fact very well. I suppose it`s the best thing that ever happened to me. Fun, too."ā€”David Bowie

And now, live from the world ofĀ Wikipedia:

"...Bisexual chic is a phrase sometimes used to describe the public acknowledgement of bisexuality among various segments of society. In some cases the phrase can be considered pejorative, when used to trivialize or dismiss genuine feelings of same-sex attraction, especially if those expressing these thoughts continue to exhibit otherwise hetero normative behaviors.

One usage of the phrase describes increased public interest in bisexuality, or increased social acceptance of bisexuality. This usage is usually associated with a celebrity coming out as bisexual or being labeled as bisexual, or with a high-profile reference to bisexuality in popular culture media, like a cover article of a magazine.

The other main usage describes a faddish attention towards bisexuality. This usage is also limited in scope, as it fails to provide relevant content of what it means to be bisexual, to give context to the legitimacy of bisexuality as an orientation, and even to convey a full understanding of bisexuality..."

People, is it more taboo to be bi than gay? The Wikipedia commentary of 'bisexual chic' is as confused as those who hate bi's think we are. Funny, because while the neighbors and colleagues all sat in judgement, or in their own confusion, or sighed at how confused they thought I must beā€”I was having the time of my life. Bi is real, gay is real, straight is real. And on Bastardlife, you can dip and dab in as many of them as you like. Be safe and enjoy.ā€”N.B.

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By Neal Boulton at 11:17AM on December 14, 2008

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posted by way2ec

Sat, 05/16/2009 - 11:13pm

I don't think taboo is the right word, more taboo to be bi than gay? I was bi for years, met a woman at a gay party, fell madly in love, 25 years and 3 kids later, divorced, was with a young lady for over a year, didn't work out, and am in love with a man with two kids, helping him raise the kids as his divorce works itself out. Guess that qualifies as bi. Given Kinsey's scale of 1 to 6, one would assume that bi is obviously the majority. I think bi isn't "allowed" as it makes defining people by their sexual orientation just way too difficult. There are supposed to be two options, 100% straight which means you wouldn't even THINK "IT", and homo, which means even if you just think about it you're homo, and if you ever even once touch a guy, well, you really aren't "straight". If you actually enjoy "homo sex", then you have to be at least "gay", or worse, so how can there be a bi category. The gay community is even more vicious about the label, all straight guys secretly are at least "curious", and any guy who has enjoyed gay sex, let alone ever been emotionally involved or in love with a man, is trying to stay in the closet, or get back into the closet if he has sex with a woman. All bi men who are married and have children are at SERIOUS risk of being outted by gays, even if all their gay sex is in their past, ie. they are monogamous with their wives. Taboo? No, but perhaps even more dangerous than "just" being gay given the lack of acceptance from both the straight and gay communities.