An End to Sex Stress. In a poll of 6,307 male BastardLife readers, 47% of you told us you'd found a couple of pretty successful ways to delay your orgasm. "I used to cum a few minutes after she and I would start," Michael from Austin told us, "but over the years, I've found I can go longer if I try different things, like pulling out a little before I feel like I'm getting close and going down on her, giving her a sweet orgasm orally, while I calm down enough to go another round."
Troy from San Fransisco said, "I used to be a little too obsessed with how I thought women wanted me to perform in bed. I just assumed that women wanted me to pound away for an hour or so, which for me, is impossible. On top of that, the pressure to perform that way stressed me out to the point that during intercourse, I'd be so preoccupied with how long I was fucking that all I did was think about cumming—which would make me want to cum even sooner. That's when I got so fed up I just decided to try something new. I initiated a game to see how many positions we could try—and as soon as I felt like I might be close to cumming, I'd suggest a new position, or with the girls who seemed cool to just follow my lead, I'd simply put them in as many positions as I felt like. The sex was more fun, and because I was stopping and starting before each new position, I lasted much longer."
"The stress of cumming too quickly really got to me during sex and definitely threw me off my game," Paul of Dallas shared. "I even thought I had some kind of a problem at one point until I started a new approach, one that the women I have been sleeping with seem to like because I've been invited back several times. In short—I make sure they cum once or twice well before I do. For some women, usually women who are used to being on top and who only prefer a long session of jackhammering, this has not worked. But for the majority of my bed mates, it has. Oral sex is a huge part my technique, but with a twist. I ask her to suck me, but while she's doing it, I tell her to touch herself. Nothing is hotter than seeing a woman sucking me while she is making herself cum. And after her orgasm, I slowly begin intercourse, ideally while she is still cumming. Most of the time from what I've been told during sex, doing this makes her cum harder and even longer than she usually does. At times I cum relatively soon after this, which because she has just cum, hard, and in a really hot way, doesn't bother her at all because I tell her we can do it all over again as soon as I am able in twenty minutes or so."
A small percentage of you echoed what Brett from New York told us, "Sometimes I cum fast and sometimes I don't, women just need to get over it and realize men cum faster than they do. If you're patient, we can go another round. If you're not, well, it's your loss."—N.B.