You're ok with you boyfriend seeing other people. You've got a few every so often on the side as well. Now what?
Q: My boyfriend and I see other guys from time to time on the side, even though we’ve been a happy couple for over five years. Does this mean we are having an open relationship or just a normal gay couple?—Dave H., Tampa, FL.
A: Judging by an online poll of 4,312 BastardLife readers one might think that your relationship is the new normal.
63% of you told us that you’d been with your current boyfriend for over a year and that each of you was allowed to see other people.
Julian from Miami said, “Most of the time we are intimate with each other, but there are times that we venture out of our relationship and hook up with others. It’s just not that big of a deal with us.”
Stephen from Sarasota told us, “Sometimes when we talk about the other men we are with it makes our time in bed even hotter. A great remedy for jealously.”
Richard from Pensacola said, “Straight people are always cheating on each other. I accept that there will be times my boyfriend and I stray. Instead of letting it ruin our relationship, we let it make it hotter: if his boyfriend on the side is good enough, my partner will bring him in for a threesome. We call it healthy sharing.”
27% of you told us that you wished the men you dated were more accepting of open relationships. Danny from Siesta Key said, “I think it’s impossible for men to be monogamous—including those men who forbid their partners from cheating. Yep, they’re cheating, too. I should know, I was one of them.”
Key Tip: Don't fight human nature, work with it.—N.B.